Critics and Catalysts
Critics deny God’s calling on your life, and seek to validate only themselves. They throw spears at you because of their own insecurities.
Catalysts see your potential, speak to it and reveal opportunities to develop it. These people love you, understand your struggle, and walk with your through it.
I am reminded of David and the calling God has placed on his life: to be King. Saul, was his biggest critic. Despite Saul’s “support” and love for David, we read that he became jealous of David, and threw spears at him. This was a direct criticism of the calling that God had placed on David’s life; and one that God was in the process of fulfilling. Saul wanted David out of the picture because it would make his life easier.
Fast forward to David’s darkest hour: David and Bathsheba. Nathan is what I would label as a catalyst. He saw David’s potential and wanted to ensure that it was protected it all cost. Even to the point of proverbially sucker punching David. Nathan exposed the reality of David’s actions and how they effected his realtionship with God (catalysts are Christ centered) and his ability to lead, love, and care for his family. He wanted David to be restored.
Sometimes critics and catalysts look the same and sound the same. You need to determine who’s who in your life. The way you perceive someone determines how you can receive them and that ultimately determines how we respond to them.
When Sara and I first got married; the woman who was supposed to be my biggest supporter; I felt, became my biggest critic.
There was a time when I would be hurt deeply by some things she would say to me. They felt harsh, rude and disrespectfull. Even unloving sometimes. And when she said those things, my feelings of rejection would make me bitter towards her and towards God.
I had to determine if she was a critic or a catalyst.
Enter my pain management system.
In case you were wondering… She is a catalyst.